Ballet Class for Cornelia

Coco has been fascinated with ballet since . . ., well, as long as I can remember.  She has always had multiple tutus, she has watched the Barbie ballet movies multiple times ("Barbie of Swan Lake" and "Barbie in the Pink Shoes," both of which are actually quite good), and she has been putting on dance shows for some time now.  Finally, in January, she started her first official ballet class.  

First official ballet class, Friday, January 8, 2016
City Ballet, San Francisco

Finding a ballet class was no easy task, or at least finding one that worked into our schedule was no easy task.  Let's just say it took Ken a lot of time, a lot of Internet research, and a detailed spreadsheet to find a ballet class for three- to four-year-olds, somewhere within a reasonable distance from our house, on a Monday, a Friday or at the end of the day on a Wednesday, and accepting new students in January.  Fortunately we found a class at 4:00 p.m on Friday afternoons at City Ballet -- which is about as ideal as we could have hoped for.   

We have to give a shout out to our friend Eric who took Coco to ballet class on her first day -- when attendance was required and when Ken and I were both out of town.  He even took a picture for us!  

Usually, Ken takes Coco to her class and then takes Margot and Flynn to Zuni, a restaurant Ken used to frequent for cocktails and dinners with friends "back in the day."  Now he sips apple juice and munches on French fries.    

Waiting for apple juice and French fries

Bedtime Rituals

One night last week - one of the nights Ken was out of town - I put all three kids to bed.  It was the usual bedtime ritual.  All three kids know it:  Pajamas.  One bedtime story.  One TV show (Mother Goose Club, Dora, Diego, or Doc McStuffins usually) with something to drink and a treat.  Brushing teeth.  Then, finally, to bed. 

“Tucking-in” is a mini-ritual within the bedtime ritual.  These days it usually involves Margot choosing which of her "babies" will sleep with her and Flynn deciding if he'll have a stuffed friend in bed with him or if he’ll simply throw it on the floor.  Coco gets into bed and waits patiently to be tucked in.  (By the way, all three kids are now officially in the same room with three twin beds all lined up in a row.  How that finally came to be is another post.)  Then there is finally the actual tucking in and multiple good-night kisses for everyone.  Flynn is the most intentional about good night kisses.  You lean down to give him a kiss and he's looking up at you waiting for it, and then he reaches up, grabs your head, pulls it down and gives you a big sloppy two-year-old-kiss right on the lips.  It cracks me up every time.

With all three kids tucked into bed I went downstairs to work for a while before going to bed myself.  Not more than a few minutes after I sat down in the dining room to work, I heard steps coming down the stairs.  Then into the dining room came all three kids.  I turned and looked at them standing in the doorway.  All three of them appearing at the same time is a new phenomenon.  It felt a bit like the arrival of a delegation of sorts, kind of like <and say this part in an official announcer-like voice> "The Delegation Representing Upstairs has arrived, sir."  I gave them my best raised-eyebrows, head tilted, questioning, "why are you up" look. 

Coco, as the speaker on behalf of The Delegation Representing Upstairs (which makes sense since she is the only Delegate who can speak in complete sentences), said, "Margot and Flynn want to sleep in my bed with me." 

"No.  Everyone needs to sleep in their own bed," I said.

"But they want to sleep in my bed."

"Well, they can't.  Now everyone needs to go to bed."

So I took them all back upstairs.  I tucked in Margot and I tucked in Flynn with all the necessary good-night kisses -- including the reach-grab-and-pull kiss from Flynn.  I turned to Coco who was sitting on her bed, not looking like she was going to sleep anytime soon. 

"Okay,” I said to her.  “Margot and Flynn can sleep in your bed.  But only after I leave.  And I don't want to hear any running around up here.  Okay?"  I turned and went back downstairs.

Minutes later The Delegation Representing Upstairs arrived again.  I turned and gave Coco my best "why are you downstairs this time?" look.

Then she said to me, “You didn’t tuck me in.”  And she burst into tears.  They were not boo-hoo-hoo for-sympathy tears.  They were honest to goodness “and you really hurt my feelings” tears.

I did not see that coming.  I had, in fact, not tucked her in.  I had violated our bedtime ritual.  So, I knelt in front of my crying little girl and gave her a big hug and a kiss.  “I’m so sorry, pun’kin.  I didn’t tuck you in because I thought you were waiting for me to leave so you could get Margot and Flynn into your bed with you.  I’m really sorry.  And I’m really glad you came downstairs to tell me you were upset.”  She stopped crying and gave me a hug back. “It’s okay, Daddy,” she said softly, sniffing just a bit. 

Sometimes a child can break your heart and warm your heart at the very same time.  

So I took The Delegation Representing Upstairs back upstairs, tucked them in – all three of them – and told them a story about a dragon that was the friendliest dragon you would ever meet, who stopped at a village for drink of water from the fountain in the square, fell asleep and scared all the villagers until three little children named Coco, Margot and Flynn came out and woke up the dragon and introduced themselves.  They become the best of friends.  The End.  

Princess Rule #18 

Always hang your tiara on your headboard
when you go to bed at night.
One never knows when one might have need of
its magical powers.

    

Margot and Flynn before their move from cribs to big-kid beds.

Holloween 2015: Woodland Faeries

three little woodland faeries

a family of woodland faeries

"Woodland Faeries!  Let's do this!"

Flynn:  "Margot, why do you keep putting the candy in here?"

Flynn:  "Maybe if I bite it hard enough I can get it open."

Flynn:  "still . . . biting . . . ."

Flynn:  "For the love of all that's good in the world, please open this for me!"

Flynn:  "I'm just going to sit here and eat my fish until all these strange people go away."

Postcards from Mendocino: County Fair 2015

"Twin kids, meet the twin kids."

"Your first time at the rodeo?"
"Nope."
"Me neither."

Words I never want to hear from any of these three:
"Can I do that too someday?"

Postcards from Mendocino: Labor Day Harvest 2015

In the early spring of 2008 Ken and I planted a small orchard at our place near Boonville.  Okay, "small" might not be the right word.  We planted nearly 40 fruit trees.  And for the following several summers we were quite dedicated to the orchard.  In fact, much to my surprise, it became mostly my project and I really enjoyed it. 

Then came Child One and our time outside "in the garden" diminished a bit.  Ken stopped planting his vegetable garden altogether.  Then Ken started traveling for work every week and with my travel too, our trips north lessened a bit.  Then came Child Two and Child Three, and Child One started on the birthday party circuit.  Our trips north lessened further still and our time in the garden become nonexistent.

As you can imagine, the yard has been neglected a bit.  Okay, more than a bit.  And the California drought has not helped   Yet the trees in the orchard have kept on keepin' on for these past several years.  Yes, we've lost several over time, but the majority are still there. 

Over Labor Day this year we harvested three big baskets of pears and apples from an orchared that hasn't been watered in, um, three years.  The kids had a good time picking apples, although we had to keep an eye on Flynn and Margot who tended to take a single bite from the apples and then toss them into the basket. 

 

 

 

 

 

The Mouse in the House

One early morning last week I staggered downstairs to the kitchen to make some much needed coffee in the blessed quiet before my three children would be awake demanding Aquanauts on the TV and milk in their sippy cups.  As I stood at the counter in the kitchen, bleary-eyed, enjoying the aroma of brewing coffee, I heard it . . . . the shuffley-scratchy sound of a mouse in the house.  I froze.  Suddenly I was very much awake, listening intently to that all-too-familiar shuffley-scratchy sound of a mouse in the house and trying to determine the exact location of the cursed critter.

You see, last spring and summer our entire neighborhood was overrun with mice.  It was a frequent topic of sidewalk conversation among the neighbors.  Nearly all of us resorted to a not-inexpensive service that not only got rid of the mice, but carefully sealed every nook and cranny around the ground level of the house so that no more mice would make our home their home.  And ultimately it worked.  The mice vanished and were not seen or heard from again. 

So, as I stood in the kitchen that early morning last week waiting for my coffee to brew, I was not at all happy to hear once again the shuffley-scratchy sound of a mouse in the house.

Without moving, using my super-human, bionic-woman-like powers of hearing, I listened carefully so that I could pinpoint the exact location of the little varmint.  The shuffley-scratchy sound of the mouse in the house was louder than I expected.  And more animated too.  Could there be two?  What in the dickens were they doing?  Dancing?  And why were they out and about in the house in the morning.  Our previous mouse guests and been active only at night.

Gradually, I turned from the counter and crept across the kitchen towards the breakfast room as quietly as, well, a mouse, so that I might catch a glimpse of the little intruder.  And, there in the breakfast room, seated at the breakfast room table, tiny little fingers tapping away at the keyboard on my laptop, was Margot.  She turned to me and grinned.  “Good morning, Daddy!  I was just checking your email.  Can I have some toast?”  Okay, she didn’t say that because she’s not talking yet, but it’s what she would have said if she could have said something.

Yes, Margot had toddled downstairs sometime earlier that morning, before I was up, and sat herself in front of my laptop to pass the time until she knew I would finally show up to make her some toast. 

You see, in our house we don’t have mice anymore.  What we have is free-range two-year-olds. 

Margot was the first to climb out of her crib.  Actually, first she climbed out of her pack-n-play in the country over Labor Day Weekend.  Again and again one night.  To the point where at different times during the night Ken and I were sleeping next to the pack-n-play to keep her in her bed.  Then when we got back home to San Francisco she demonstrated her ability to clamber quite easily out of her crib.  She got quite good at it quite fast.  In fact, last weekend when she was supposed to be taking a nap she climbed out of her crib ten times.  That’s not an exaggeration.  I counted.  I thought that if every time she climbed out of her crib I put her right back in, she would eventually give up and take her nap.  She, on the other hand, thought in her little head, “If every time Daddy puts me back in my crib I climb right back out, he’ll eventually give up and I won’t have to take a nap.”  She was right. 

It was actually several days before I sat in the room and watched her climb out of her crib.  She would swing her leg up over the end of the crib, pull herself over the side, tummy down, and then lower herself so that she could set first one foot and then the other foot on the cross piece at mattress level.  Then she would simply hop off.

Not to be outdone for long, it was only a week before Flynn realized he was getting left behind.  He quickly figured out the art of crib climbing and became a free-range two-year-old as well. 

So, sadly, we bid adeiu to the period when we could put two of our three children to bed and count on them to stay put.  And we say "hola" to the nightly battle of wills to get children to go to bed and stay in bed. 

Margot and Flynn, not in their beds but in Coco's bed instead.