So, I think we finally have a plan to get to India to get
Flynn and Margot. Ken made arrangements
to finish filming in Los Angeles this Friday, a week earlier than originally
planned. He’ll be home on Saturday. In the meantime, my last day in the office
will be this Wednesday. On Thursday, I’ll
fly with Cornelia to Atlanta where I will rendezvous with Grandma Connie,
Grandpa Roy and the Kennesaw Wingards. I’ll
stay in Atlanta on Thursday night and then fly back to San Francisco on Friday
night. Ken and I will have the weekend
to get ready for the trip to India. We’ll
leave on Monday afternoon and arrive in India at 1:30 a.m. on Wednesday morning
(about 24 hours after we leave).
On Wednesday morning, we’ll pick up Flynn and Margot from
the hospital and get them settled into where we are staying. (Okay, where we’re staying isn’t figured out
yet, but Ken is working on it.) We’ll
also immediately start the process to get Flynn and Margot home. The first step will be the DNA test required
by the U.S. government to prove the kids have a parent who is a U.S.
citizen. This takes about a week. Once that’s done, Flynn and Margot will be
issued their U.S. passports at the U.S. embassy. Then we’ll have to get the necessary visas
from the Indian government to leave the country. That requires a two-step process and visits to
two different agencies.. If everything
goes smoothly we could be ready to leave on or around Wednesday, September
25th. We’re scheduled to fly home on
Friday, September 27th, so everything really has to go smoothly.
A lot of people have asked if Cornelia knows what’s
coming. No, she doesn’t. Sure, we’ve been telling her for a few months
that she’s going to have two little siblings, and we’ve watched the episodes of
Dora the Explorer with Dora’s twin little brother and little sister countless
times. And we showed her pictures of
Flynn and Margot when they were born last weekend. But I don’t think at her age she really
understands the abstract concept of siblings -- or the enormous upheaval that
is about to occur in her life. I fear
she will not be pleased.
What's better than the refreshing feeling of cool water dripping on your tummy from the planter on the deck above? |
A passion for Play-Doh. |
Her playground manners are coming along nicely as well. She knows how to share sandbox toys (most of the time), and how to take her turn on the slide (most of the time) and when to say she’s sorry (whenever Daddy says so).
While all this sounds lovely, she has her share of fits
and tantrum like any two-year-old (who just spent four weeks with her grandparents)
does. Sometimes it feels to me like no
one has ever said “no” to her. So Daddy
is saying “no” a lot these days. “No,
you can’t eat peanut butter with your fingers.”
“No you can’t wear your pajamas outside.” “No, you can’t put toothpaste
on your toothbrush a third time.” “No, you
can’t roam around the house with ink pens and markers.” “No, if you don’t eat your Cheerios (which
you chose over the scrambled egg sandwich, Greek yogurt and fresh strawberries
I made for you for breakfast), you cannot watch Dora the Explorer, or play with
your Play-Doh, or go outside.” (She
still didn’t eat her Cheerios which resulted in a rather unpleasant morning for
the both of us.)
How lovely that you are getting to experience the joys of parenthood! Oh, how reading this brought back so many happy, wonderful memories of playing and learning--sitting on the bed the moment they read something for the very first time--as well as all the other...memories haha (There was this one particularly amazing walmart trantrum I shall never forget!)
ReplyDeleteHow lovely when a family makes a home for a child they did not themselves create with their own DNA. (I am one such child who a family made room for.) How much lovelier is it that a same-gender loving couple gets the opportunity to do so, creating a stable, loving environment that has nothing to do with standard hetero-gender roles!
I know so many gay men who would make AMAZING parents but they have never gotten the chance--and many never will. Someday, maybe everyone who has the capacity to love and nurture a child will have an easier time to do so.
with much love and admiration ... and yes, pride, too // todd
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